“Anak, fight back.” When do we need to say that?

This question has been bugging me the whole day. So let me ask you, when do we urge our kids to fight back and how? I honestly don’t know. I want to raise a kind human being but I don’t want her to be a push-over. It’s so much easier said than done. How do we discern?

I attended a mom and baby event yesterday – kids playing everywhere. It was fun of course. But then, Monica cried twice. Yes twice, different kids but same scenario. Inagawan ng laruan si Monica.

I was just observing as always – I know I am not in the position to meddle. Bata yan, syempre mag-aagawan sila ng laruan. Very normal. But observing how my Monica helplessly cried that time was just heartbreaking. I heard her say “hey that’s mine. Hey, can you please give it back to me? I am still playing.” She kept begging the other kid. Nakakaawa tapos umiyak na sya at lumapit sa akin when she saw me looking at her.

I don’t blame the other kid, what do they know right? Well Monica, as far as I know, never pa nang-agaw ng ganon and never rin naman sya nanakit pag may ginagawang hindi maganda sa kanya. Pero syempre bata sila. Sisishin ko ba yung isang bata? Hindi, diba?

But on the second instance, nangyari ulit. She kept saying “please give it back to me, I am still playing” tapos naiyak na naman at lumapit sa’kin. I told her, “Monica, you already asked them nicely, this time, you get it from them. Get it, it’s yours!” Tama ba ako? Mali ba? I don’t know.

In my mind, I should teach her how to assert herself and that she shouldn’t let others make her cry like that. That she can fight if she must. BUT mabait syang bata. She would rather cry and go to me kesa lumaban or manakit or whatever. Hay.

What do you do, moms, dads? Haha. I honestly don’t know. I want her to fight but I don’t want her to think it’s always good to fight. She’s 3 years old and whatever I teach and show her, she easily absorbs so I am extra careful. I don’t want her to be the kid moms are worried about. Gets?

Am I right? What is the better way to deal with this?

Thanks in advance! <3

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Hey, 2020

I promise to blog more this 2020. I know this is what I want and all I need is consistency. And a lot of authenticity. <3

I officially entered the “mommy blogging world” in 2019 – worked with amazing brands, partnered with different online stores, became visible in events, and so much more. Getting too excited seemed underrated, I was actually over the moon at first. To be really honest, I was blinded with likes, follows, invites. Sa totoo lang, iba talaga ang feeling especially for a stay-at-home mommy like me, going to events was and still is a treat, moreso if you have tokens or payments to take home. But things are not as pretty as it seems.

When I realized what I got myself into, napagod ako. Wuw ang feeling ko naman, to think I only have more or less 2700 Instagram followers. Haha. I feel like ang arte ko to think about all these but it is what it is. I guess napagod lang ako with how it works — I felt like I was always at the mercy of others para lang magka-event or PR kits. I hated that feeling. Especially if you’re made to feel less about yourself for not having XX number of followers. I know I can always choose not to mind but it’s just not right.

But then again, I go back to why I really want to be in this world – I want to share snippets and stories of my motherhood life. I want to tell stories of the products that helped me. I want to be part of a community that speaks the same language as me. And to be completely honest, I want to consider this as a type of work, where my capabilities are needed, my inputs are valued. I want to gain from this blogging world, experience and monetary combined. #SaTrueLang

So, after a few weeks of thinking and deliberating with and by myself haha; I think I already know what I need to do. My my mantra this 2020 is: Stay and slay, but never get swayed away. 🙂 I repeat…

Stay and slay, but never get swayed away


I will continue what I do but this time I’ll be very careful and be more mindful. I will post because I truly believe and not just because I am asked to do so. I will be okay not to be included or considered. I will not second-guess myself and I will not think ill of others. Hard, but pretty doable.

Another thing I will do is, to focus on how I can improve my craft – how to take more interesting photos, you know not just my face, or our face haha. I want more story in every photo, may it be personal or branded content. I want myself to be someone I will never get tired of following. So help me Lord. Hehe. I hope to also learn how to communicate better, thru writing or talking or even thru simple body language.

I don’t want to get involved with senseless chismisan anymore as it drained me last year. I don’t want to be near people who has nothing good to say about others. I want to be with people who can help me grow as a person, as a Mother, and as a Content Creator.

I also promise to write and contribute more for Smart Parenting – it is after all the one that paved the way and I will be forever grateful.

Lastly, I’ll do my best to always go back to my grounding words whenever I would feel eaten by the system again.

Mark 8:36

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?

That’s it pansit. Till my next entry, uhmm maybe next week? WISH! Hahaha

DIN

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